Lovers. Submission. Please.

Heya, this is Lia Incognita! I’m one of the three guest editors for DUDE 3: Lovers. DUDE is usually made by trans guys but for this issue we also welcome work produced by their lovers or others about sex and relationships. Submissions close at the end of May and we need more!

Who are you?

Well, I’m part of the anti-racist, anti-sexist queer performance trio, the Ladies of Colour Agency, so there’s my credentials for being a third of something. I also write for Asian-Australian arts and culture magazine, Peril, and (with Max Attitude) at queer hanky code blog flagging opinicus rampant, and I’ve been an associate editor at The Scavenger.

More generally, I’m stubborn, ambivalent, greedy and righteous as you might expect from a pansexual polyamorous agnostic switch type, mega lazy, mega ambitious (like finger in every pie but delivered to bed please) and a little bit bossy. Also I’m a cissexual woman but in print I prefer gender-neutral pronouns such as ey/em/eir.

What do you want?

Your submission! And I want it to be pithy, intimate, detailed and unique. I think the strongest submissions I’ve read so far have been the ones that have a small focus, fleshed out to fullness. Don’t try to represent all trans guys or lovers because the magazine gets repetitive quickly if the submissions are all general and abstract. I mean, you can go abstract, go deep into thoughts and feelings and ideologies, but anchor it in your experiences. You don’t need to be a writer. Just tell your own story – and not your whole life story but the meatiest parts. A remark that you mulled over for days. A glance that made your heartbeat boom. The aftershocks through your sense of self. Yeah?

Can you be more specific? 

Sure. I’ve been mostly looking at the text submissions, maybe Nyx can talk later about what we’d like to see in image submissions. We’d be interested in advice columns & how to guides, eg how to come out to your family about your partner transitioning. We’re taking letters to the editor on the previous issue too, and we might even take personals ads! (I’ll talk about that more later.) We’ll take fiction and erotica, as long as it also touches on some ideas and issues too. And of course you can submit anonymously or under a pseudonym.

Some suggested topics:

  • sex, especially in relation to changing bodies/identity, ‘gender dysphoria’
  • how transitioning affects or affected your relationship (positive/negative)
  • anxieties around a lover’s hormone use, surgery, body
  • peer and cultural pressures: passing, not passing, visibility
  • disclosure – yours / managing a partner’s
  • scene politics, whether queer, gay, lesbian, straight – hierarchies of who belongs, who’s the coolest
  • parenting / pregnancy
  • marriage
  • have you left a transitioning lover? We would really like to hear stories of transition break ups – what went wrong?
But we’re open to all submissions, not just on these topics. Feel free to run ideas by us, we’re happy to talk about your submission even if you haven’t yet written a draft. Email dudemag.special[at] or chat to us on the Facebook event here. I’ll post more ideas and topics next week. Submission guidelines are here.

x Lia Incognita

DUDE 3: Lovers; Sex/Relationships


Trans guys are hot! And we know you love us, so why not give us some detail – because we love you just as much!!

… DUDE is usually produced by transdudes and friends, however this special issue is dedicated to work produced by lovers of people who identify with transmasculinity.

We would LOVE to get submissions from a variety of people in a diversity of relationships. Send us your dirtiest secret desires, persistent fears or relationship wonderings.

Especially, but not limited to:

*sex, especially in relation to changing bodies/identity, ‘gender dysphoria’
*how transitioning affects/ed your relationship (positive/negative)
*anxieties around a lover’s hormone use, surgery, body
*peer/cultural pressures: passing, not passing
*disclosure – yours / managing a partner’s
*scene bitchiness of various scenes: straight, queer, gay, lesbian…
*parenting / pregnancy
**have you left a transitioning lover? We would really like to hear stories of transition break ups – what went wrong? when did it all become too much?

*stories from straight guys, bi guys, gay guys, cis guys
*stories from trans men, trans women, gender queers
*stories from queer girls, bi girls, straight girls, cis women
*stories from butches, femmes, bois, bears, sex workers


Also, inappropriate questions you’ve been asked – think back to the comics in DUDE 1 – we want your questions as well! What is ok and not ok?


Deadline: Extended to 31 May 2012.

see the Submission Guidelines.

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print it here: Call Out 3.pdf

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